Question for Everyone

So my girlfriend Michelle McKee and I have been friends for 8 years. We've gone thru a lot together. We met in college in the sorority. She was my first ever roommate. We have matching tattoo's, even.

When she Graduated, we sort of went separate ways. She got engaged to Kevin her husband and I was still finishing up college but a short time later, we got reconnected. She was my support through my breakup with Monty, and just really a wonderful friend to have around. She was even my Matron of Honor for my wedding and flew out to Hawaii with us.

I am still not exactly sure what happened but somewhere she decided she just didn't like Scott. It baffles me. I think it has to do with when we were in Hawaii we were walking on the Hilton Waikoloa grounds and she asked about if we were going to see each other the day of the wedding. Both of us said, no that we hadn't planned to not be together and it really doesn't matter. It got into this little tiff about it being an old wives tale and that we had to do it. Scott finally said to Michelle that it doesn't matter. That we don't believe in that kind of stuff. Well ever since then she has totally been distant. She even didn't come to the Reception because she had another "dinner" to go to ... I don't believe that though.

About a month ago I got an email from Michelle saying that her Mom had just been diagnosed with Cancer and that she didn't know how long she was going to live. I called her the next day to see how she was doing and she started asking me about my relationship with Scott and having kids. I told her we are going to wait to have kids for a little bit longer for multiple reasons and money being one of them. And that I really want to get my business up and running so that when we do have kids, I will be able to work from home with them. Apparently this was a big deal for her somehow and that raising my kids and working from home is going to be really difficult to do. I just stated that in my mind, I thought it would be a little easier for me to be home instead of having to go and take them to Day Care every day. I she then said, "I can't deal with this ... I need to go ... I really don't like Scott and I can't be your friend like this ..." And she hung up. And we haven't talked since.

Last night I got a mass email from her saying that her Mom had passed away. That is horrible news. It really breaks my heart. Her Mom was very sweet and kind and loving. I want to be there for Michelle. But I don't know what to do. I don't know if Michelle will take it the wrong way if I go to her Mom's Funeral. I don't want to upset her again. Maybe I will just send flowers. I have no idea ... what would you do?